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human development books

print, web and digital publishing

Berkeley -- California -- USA


exploring creative, conscious and compassionate co-evolution --
books nurturing humanistic and liberation psychologies for the 21st century


Dennis Rivers, MA, Editor, Publisher, Bookseller, Open Source Librarian

  

our books...

~~ Wisdom's Way ~~

Quotations for Contemplation
Human Development Books ~ 2008

 

This is a book of quotations gathered from a variety of sources in psychology and spirituality, especially Buddhist, Christian, Jungian, and transpersonal. The quotations are brief and can be used as springboards for contemplation. They are divided into three sections:
 
     Psychological insight into the work we can do
     on ourselves to build a healthy personality.
 
     Spiritual awareness of our calling to act in
     the world with integrity and loving-kindness.
 
     Mystical realization exploring the manifold
     pathways to the divine heart of the universe that
     was always our own heart.
 
As we meditate daily on one or more of these quotations, we come upon our own unique path and our common human destiny: to love unconditionally, to access wisdom, and to bring compassionate healing to the world around us.   (
Complete list of books by David Richo)

 
from online booksellers in the US and around the world.
ISBN 978-0966990829


   Two classic works in psychology
back in print from Human Development Books...


The Betrayal of the Self:
The Fear of Autonomy in Men and Women
by Arno Gruen

Love or power -- these are the opposing poles of a choice every child is compelled to make, very early in its life, in a drama that sets it irrevocably on its path through life. This startling new insight into a formative experience fundamental to our development is the subject of Dr. Arno Gruen's pathbreaking contribution to the psychoanalytic view of the human soul, and what distorts it into pathology.  

     


The Insanity of Normality: Toward Understanding Human Destructiveness
by Arno Gruen
-- a classic work on the origins of violence, now available in paperback

In The Insanity of Normality, the psychoanalyst Arno Gruen challenges the assumption, made popular by Freud in the twentieth century, that humans are born with an innate tendency to destruction and violence.  Gruen argues instead that at the root of evil lies self-hatred, a rage originating in a self-betrayal that begins in childhood, when autonomy is surrendered in exchange for the "love" of those who wield power over us. To share in that subjugating power, we create a false self, a pleasing-to-others image of ourselves that springs from powerful and deep-seated hopes for love and fears of being injured and humiliated.  

     

   

more about Dr. Gruen's books and articles, including bibliography


 

Mary Within Us
A Jungian Contemplation of Her Titles and Powers

by David Richo, PhD  --  Human Development Books, 2007
 

 

 

In Mary Within Us, David Richo demonstrates how we have always venerated not the literal Mary but the feminine dimension of the divine that she represents and enriches. Using the titles in the Litany of Loreto with depth and reverence, this book opens a dialogue about Mary as a personification of the virtues and destiny of the human psyche, including the so far unexplored dark side. more...

“What a brilliant confluence of images and energies! David Richo has made a very useful set of connections between Mary and the deepest archetypes of the human psyche. This is how theology and psychology should come together. Good scholarship that could lead to good prayer.”   – FR. RICHARD ROHR, O.F.M. Center for Action and Contemplation, Albuquerque, New Mexico. 

Complete list of books by David Richo


Welcome to Human Development Books

B O O K S   F O R   S A L E  (***some free PDFs available):

    The Seven Challenges approach to new communication skills  -- Books by Dennis Rivers ***

    Books by Arno Gruen  Dr. Gruen's books explore the tangled web of feelings about coercion, conformity, rebellion and violence against which people struggle in their quest to become more fully human.

    Listening --  explorations of the process and power of listening

    Business & Work  --  communication and negotiation on the job

    Forgiveness  --  from personal healing to political transformation

    Integrative  -- home + work + relationships + personal growth

    Parenting  --  communication and relationship advice for parents

    Partnering  --  communication and relationship advice for couples

    Psychotherapy  --  books that address the emotional significance of how we listen, how we express ourselves and how we shape our lives with stories. Also, how our styles of relating to people and coping with stress influence our physical and emotional well-being.   Books by Dave Richo, PhD, Jungian psychotherapist.

    Spirituality  --  perspective on our connection to something larger, deeper and/or higher than ourselves (whichever adjective(s) you prefer). ***  including books by Jungian psychotherapist David Richo

    Violence  --  Origins of violence, psychology of violence, problem of violence (all the other sections of this online bookstore can be considered remedies to violence).

P U B L I C   S E R V I C E   W E B   S I T E S:

New Conversations (www.newconversations.net)   Cooperative communication skills in working, partnering & parenting Books, essays, teaching materials and The 7 Challenges Workboook.
 

www.SupportGenevaConventions.info   explores the pressing need to reaffirm and extend the Geneva Conventions, a series of treaties governing the conduct of war, the treatment of prisoners of war, and the protection of civilians and wounded soldiers.
 

No Nukes (www.nonukes.org)   Online library of essays and articles exploring the dangers of, and alternatives to, nuclear power and weapons.
 

Turn Toward Life (www.TurnTowardLife.org)   Explores reverence for life as a spiritual path.  Includes free library of essays and articles offering different visions of "deep ecology."
 

Karuna Books (www.KarunaBooks.net)   E-books and essays exploring the life of creativity and compassion.  (all free of charge)
 

Liberation Theology Resources (www.LiberationTheology.org) Liberation theology is an effort to think clearly about the meaning of religious faith in the context of oppression, war, poverty, inequality and environmental destruction, and to live a compassionate, courageous and life-sustaining response to those conditions, a response that not only addresses the needs of the injured and oppressed, but also works to change the structures and ongoing processes of injury and oppression.

The Seven Challenges approach
to interpersonal communication skills
published by Human Development Books

Seven Challenges: A Workbook and Reader About Communicating More Cooperatively.  By Dennis Rivers.  Free, PDF e-book copies of this 100-page book are available at www.newconversations.net/workbook/  (Also En Español:  Los Siete Retos    Em Português: Os sete desafios)  Topics include listening more responsively, expressing yourself more clearly, asking questions more creatively and expressing more gratitude. May be reproduced without royalties for home, school and business use.   Price for printed copies: $10 spiral bound plus postage. To order printed copies or download PDFs in English, Spanish or Portuguese, click here.

The Geometry of Dialogue: A Visual Way of Understanding Interpersonal Communication and Human Development.  By Dennis Rivers.  Printed edition of e-book featured for free on the web.  Explores the dynamic patterns the unfold within and between people.  Relates talking and listening to longterm processes of human development.  Supports and explains various chapters in the Seven Challenges Workbook.   Click here for extended description.   200 pages, 8.5" x 11", paperback. Printed copies are available for $20 (+ postage) from the Lulu Online Bookstore.

 

Books on Listening

The Sacred Art of Listening: Forty Reflections for Cultivating a Spiritual Practice.  By Kay Lindahl, teacher and writer.  A series of personal meditations on what it means to listen with an open heart.  Designed to illumine your spiritual journey, this book provides access to a new way of listening -- to Source, to self and to others. (List price, appx $16.00  ISBN 1893361446. Click on one of the buttons below to order a new or used copy from our Amazon Books Link.)  Also, see Kay Lindahl's beautiful web site with a visual meditation on listening in the form of an animated slide show.  

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FREE >>  Compassionate Listening: An Exploratory Sourcebook About Conflict Transformation (25 pages), by Gene Knudsen Hoffman, Leah Green and Cynthia Monroe. Edited by and with an introduction by Dennis Rivers.

  
Business & Work  --  communication and negotiation on the job
  

Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In (2nd ed.), by Roger Fisher, William Ury and Bruce Patton.  New York: Penguin Books.  1991.  If these folks did not invent the idea of "win-win" solutions, they deserve credit for popularizing it around the world.  They propose that by under- standing your own long-term interests better and by understanding your bargaining opponent's long-term interests, you can work toward agreements in which everyone gets more of what they want and need.  These kinds of agreements take more work to create but they are more likely to last than simple "split the difference" compromises.  A great introduction to negotiation with examples from business and politics.  According to John Kenneth Galbraith, "This is by far the best thing I've ever read about negotiation. It is equally relevant for the individual who would like to keep his friends, property, and income and the statesman who would like to keep the peace." (Price: appx. $13.00.  ISBN: 0140157352. Click on one of the buttons below to order a new or used copy from our Amazon Books Link.)

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Getting Past No : Negotiating Your Way from Confrontation to Cooperation by William Ury.   Excerpt from Amazon.com review: This a must read for anyone that interacts with people. William Ury has written a very practical, easily read, guide and process that anyone can use right from the start. Not just a 'business guide', his five step process is easily applied to everyday situations and with practice is a foundation for much larger negotiations. The principles are well defined via a five step process that is demonstrated through examples that are fresh, relevant, understood by common association. Much effort has been made to make this text even more memorable than 'Getting to Yes.' Gearing concepts through example gives the reader a sense of self mastery without having to memorize lists. The framework builds upon itself with frequent review of previously introduced terms. From business to interpersonal communication, this book has something for everyone. (Price: appx. $15.00.  ISBN: 0553371312. Click on one of the buttons below to order a new or used copy from our Amazon Books Link.)  

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Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss what Matters Most by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, Sheila Heen & Roger Fisher.   Excerpt from Amazon.com review: We've all been there: We know we must confront a coworker, store clerk, or friend about some especially sticky situation--and we know the encounter will be uncomfortable. So we repeatedly mull it over until we can no longer put it off, and then finally stumble through the confrontation. Difficult Conversationsoffers advice for handling these unpleasant exchanges in a manner that accomplishes their objective and diminishes the possibility that anyone will be needlessly hurt. The authors, associated with Harvard Law School and the Harvard Project on Negotiation, show how such dialogues actually comprise three separate components: the "what happened" conversation (verbalizing what we believe really was said and done), the "feelings" conversation (communicating and acknowledging each party's emotional impact), and the "identity" conversation (expressing the situation's underlying personal meaning).  (Price: appx. $16/new, $8/used.  ISBN: 014028852X. Click on one of the buttons below to order a new or used copy from our Amazon Books Link.)

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Bringing Out the Best in People: How to Apply the Astonishing Power of Positive Reinforcement by Aubrey C. Daniels.  Daniels' book is controversial because he discusses motivating people with rewards, recognition and organizational programs that try to express systematic appreciation for jobs well done.  Some people have objected that this is treating employees like trainable animals:  throwing a fish to the performing dolphin.  The problem is that organizations are always conditioning their employees in one way or another; any structured environment does that. So this book recommends that companies take responsibility for steering the conditioning processes that are at work every day.  The most important issue here is that people who cause problems often get most of the attention in organizations, and people who try hard and perform well often get ignored and taken for granted.  The high performing folks then get frustrated and leave, because their basic need for recognition is not being met.  And when they do leave, the organization suffers.  The idea of managing by correcting mistakes and "keeping people in line" has such a strong grip on so many managers that it will probably take radical programs like Daniels' to get people on the road toward managing by rewarding excellence.   Review by Dennis Rivers. (Price: appx. $22/new.  ISBN: 0071351450. Click on one of the buttons below to ordera new or used copy from our Amazon Books Link.)

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Forgiveness  --  from personal healing to political transformation
  

 

Forgiveness: Breaking the Chain of Hate, by Michael Henderson. These heart-moving stories from around the world will permanently expand your sense of what is possible between people.  

Excerpt from Gene Knudsen Hoffman's review:

"There is a way the world can change from war to peace, from hatred to love. It requires a lot of effort, a lot of understanding, and it begins at home.  For centuries we've been told to practice it, that it's healing for ourselves and the other, that it's a way to manifest love and courage. It brings peace to the participants. It is a brave and noble thing to do, and -- it can be very costly, costly to pride, to arrogance, to fear, to hate.  Michael Henderson has written the definitive book on it and it's called: Forgiveness. Of it Desmond Tutu wrote, `A deeply moving and eloquent testimony to the power of forgiveness in the life of individuals, of communities, and between and within nations. It effects change -- a powerful book.` "  [FULL REVIEW]   (Price: appx. $15/new, $8/used.  ISBN: 014028852X. Click on one of the buttons below to order a new or used copy from our Amazon Books Link.)

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Forgive for Good, by Fred Luskin, PhD.  With clear and gentle steps, Dr. Luskin with guide you to "take your hurt less personally, take responsibility for how you feel, and become a hero instead of a victim in the story you tell." Here is a brief review comment by Jan Sollish posted on Amazon:  " Forgive for Good is an invaluable tool for just about everyone. The methods Dr. Luskin teaches through his book are clear, easy to understand and implement, and incredibly powerful. The chapter in which he describes his work with the women from Northern Ireland who had lost loved ones in the fighting is so moving as to be life altering. The pain of these women, the horror of their experience, and finally their subsequent relief from some of the emotional pain they have carried for years is simply amazing. For me, this book combined a practicality of everyday life with a gentle spirituality. I have already bought it for several friends and plan to use it as a tool in my life as well." (Price: appx. $12/new, $7/used.  ISBN: 006251721X. Click on one of the buttons below to order a new or used copy from our Amazon Books Link.)

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Integrative
-- home + work + relationships + personal growth
  

  

MESSAGES: The Communication Skills Book, by Matthew McKay, Martha Davis and Patrick Fanning.  Oakland: New Harbinger.  1983.  This book is an easy-to-read but comprehensive introduction to the many-faceted process of interpersonal communication at home and at work.  Among the many topics it introduces, it includes chapters on self-expression, fighting fairly, assertiveness and negotiation. (Price: appx. $16.00.  ISBN: 1572240229.  Click on one of the buttons below to order a new or used copy from our Amazon Books Link.)
 

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Nonviolent Communication:
A Language of Compassion
, by  Marshall B. Rosenberg. (Del Mar, CA: PuddleDancer Press. 1999.)  This book presents Rosenberg's vision of empathic communication and the four essential messages that we need to express so that other people can understand what we are experiencing.  These same four elements are what we need to listen for in order to understand other people (and ourselves) better.  One reader wrote: "A clinical psychologist who studied with Carl Rogers, Dr. Rosenberg pulls together in lucid, flowing prose, information from many respected sources on the art and science of the practical use of language in creating empathy and human connection. Beautifully written in language that demonstrates his compassion."  (Price: appx. $17.95.  ISBN: 1892005026. Click on one of the buttons below to order a new or used copy from our Amazon Books Link.)

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The Talk Book: The Intimate Science of Communicating in Close Relationships, by Gerald Goodman and Glen Esterly.  Emmaus, PA: Rodale Press.  1988.  (This fine book is out of print but used copies are available from Amazon for approximately $1.00!) This book presents Goodman's vision of the six most important "Talk Tools."  His chapters include lively transcripts of phone conversations showing exactly how the "Talk Tools" can help.  The principles discussed are applied in both work and family contexts.  Includes a great reference section that will introduce you to the most interesting and promising work in the area of interpersonal communication studies.  (Look for this book at your local library, order used copy [$1-$4] by clicking on the button below, or order from UCLA Academic Publishing Service at (310) 825-2831. Price: $20.50, postage included.)

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Parenting  --  communication and relationship advice for parents
 

 

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish.  New York: Avon Books.  1980.  A book for parents and everyone who wants to improve their communication with kids.  Full of wonderfully informative cartoon sequences illustrating the major points. (Price: appx. $12.50.  ISBN: 0380570009. Click on title to order a new or used copy from our Amazon Books Link.)

 

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Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic.  by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka   Review from Amazon.com:   Recently, temperament traits have come to the forefront of child development theory. In Raising Your Spirited Child, Mary Sheedy Kurcinka's first contribution is to redefine the "difficult child" as the "spirited" child, a child that is, as she says, MORE. Many people are leery about books that are too quick to "type" kids, but Kurcinka, a parent of a spirited child herself and a parent educator for 20 years, doesn't fall into that trap. Instead, she provides tools to understanding your own temperament as well as your child's. When you understand your temperamental matches--and your mismatches--you can better understand, work, live, socialize, and enjoy spirit in your child. By reframing challenging temperamental qualities in a positive way, and by giving readers specific tools to work with these qualities, Kurcinka has provided a book that will help all parents, especially the parents of spirited children, understand and better parent their children. (Price: appx. $13/new, $6/used.  ISBN: 0060923288. Click on title to order a new or used copy from our Amazon Books Link.)

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Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child

by John M. Gottman, Joan Declaire, Daniel P. Goleman


Every parent knows the importance of equipping children with the intellectual skills they need to succeed in school and life. But children also need to master their emotions. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child is a guide to teaching children to understand and regulate their emotional world. And as acclaimed psychologist and researcher John Gottman shows, once they master this important life skill, emotionally intelligent children will enjoy increased self-confidence, greater physical health, better performance in school, and healthier social relationships. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child will equip parents with a five-step "emotion coaching" process that teaches how to:
 

    * Be aware of a child's emotions
    * Recognize emotional expression as an opportunity for intimacy and teaching
    * Listen empathetically and validate a child's feelings
    * Label emotions in words a child can understand
    * Help a child come up with an appropriate way to solve a problem or deal with an upsetting issue or situation

Written for parents of children of all ages, Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child will enrich the bonds between parent and child and contribute immeasurably to the development of a generation of emotionally healthy adults.

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Partnering  --  communication and relationship advice for couples

 

Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You? by Jordan and Margaret Paul.  (Minneapolis: CompCare Publishers.  1983.)  This book is built around the concept of courageous honesty and the psychological insight that, in order to feel close, partners need to tell one another the truth about what they are thinking and feeling.  The peace that a couple buys by avoiding difficult issues will eventually destroy the relationship they hope to protect.  "The most important, useful and powerful book I have read on couple therapy since Virginia Satirs Conjoint Family Therapy. One of the rare books that is both useful to the lay audience and indispensable for the clinician." DENNIS JAFFE, PH.D., author of "Healing From Within" (Out of print, but many used copies available for less than $2.  ISBN: 1568380682. Click button below to order a used copy from our Amazon Books Link.)

 

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Light in the Mirror (Ramira Publishing, Aptos, CA. 1995.), by Joyce and Barry Vissell, is subtitled "A New Way to Understand Relationships." Books of this nature are myriad. What distinguishes the Vissell's book from others is that it is grounded in the one place that truly creates understanding and thus cooperative communication - the place of vulnerability. Much of the advice and guidance in self-help and mainstream psychology is predicated on communicational technique but technique, absent a true commitment to honesty and self-disclosure about feelings, cannot be effective. For any technique to work, there must be an underlying openness to change which can only happen when two people are willing to share with each other their fears, doubts, uncertainties, shames and guilts - in short - their vulnerability. And this kind of sharing often doesn't happen because one or both people are afraid the other will use their vulnerability as ammunition during times of disagreement.

While perhaps not explicitly stated, there is a deep implicit spirituality underlying the Vissell's book which seems to clearly provides the foundation for the faith and trust that must exist in order to be vulnerable with a loved one. Then the chicken and the egg question arises: which has to come first - vulnerability in order to have faith and trust in a partner, or faith and trust in order to be able to be vulnerable?

I invite interested readers to find the answer to this question by reading the Vissell's book.  
Review by Bob Freeman

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Psychotherapy
Since there are many good books on psychotherapy, I have selected
three that I consider revolutionary  --  books that truly open
new doors of thought and feeling.

 

 On Becoming a Person: A Therapist's View of Psychotherapy, by Carl R. Rogers. (Boston: Houghton Mifflin.  1995.)  A classic (first published in 1961), scholarly but very readable book on the challenges of becoming a more authentic person who is open to new experience.  Rogers was a pioneer advocate of the healing power of supportive listening in both psychotherapy and everyday life. His most revolutionary idea was that Therapist did not have to 'fix' the client; if Therapist simply provided a deeply accepting environment and LISTENED, the client's own sense of inner rightness would come into play and guide the client to find a solution that was right for him/her.  (Price: appx. $15.00.  ISBN: 039575531X. Click on one of the buttons below to order a new or used copy from our Amazon Books Link.)

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Narrative Therapy: The Social Construction of
Preferred Realities
by Jill Freedman, Gene Combs.  This book is expensive and demanding, but it opens new worlds of possibilities for anyone willing to work through it.  The authors give a detailed description or how people use story lines to bring order into their life experience.  But these story lines, the plots of our lives, can become so focused on our problems and struggles that our strengths and successes disappear completely from consciousness, fall into a kind of limbo of unknowing.  Narrative therapy patiently re-gathers these lost facets of a persons life, the sparkling moments, and helps therapy clients use these moments as a kind of compass with which to steer their attention and creative effort toward competence and fulfillment.  Once you have read the transcripts, you will start having different conversations with yourself about your life!   Review by Dennis Rivers(Price: appx. $39 new.  ISBN: 0393702073. Click on one of the buttons below to order a new or used copy from our Amazon Books Link.)  
 

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Love & Survival : 8 Pathways to Intimacy and Health, by Dean Ornish, MD. (New York: HarperCollins. 1998.)  If you are wondering about how much energy to put into close, nurturing relationships, this book will provide you with a mountain of amazing evidence that supportive relationships make a life and death difference in people's lives.  As Dr. Andrew Weil comments, "This is the most important book ever written about love and health."  (List price, appx $16.00  ISBN: 0060930209. Click on one of the buttons below to order a new or used copy from our Amazon Books Link.)

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Spirituality  (this section is just getting started)

watercolor illustration courtesy of Meganne Forbes

 


Mary Within Us
A Jungian contemplation of Her Titles and Powers
Human Development Books, 2007
 

 

 

In Mary Within Us, David Richo demonstrates how we have always venerated not the literal Mary but the feminine dimension of the divine that she represents and enriches. Using the titles in the Litany of Loreto with depth and reverence, this book opens a dialogue about Mary as a personification of the virtues and destiny of the human psyche, including the so far unexplored dark side.

“What a brilliant confluence of images and energies! David Richo has made a very useful set of connections between Mary and the deepest archetypes of the human psyche. This is how theology and psychology should come together. Good scholarship that could lead to good prayer.”   – FR. RICHARD ROHR, O.F.M. Center for Action and Contemplation, Albuquerque, New Mexico. 

   Price $16 plus shipping.

     Click here to order from online booksellers around the world
   (Also can be ordered with ISBN 978-0-9669908-5-0 at any bookstore.)

     (Bookstores, please order through Ingram.)


The Varieties of Religions Experience.   William James (1902)

(free PDF available, new and used copies available for less than $10)

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Free copy: In addition to offering a link to Amazon, we are happy to offer the public a free, carefully annotated, PDF e-book edition of William James' classic study, The Varieties of Religious Experience.  This web edition of the book was prepared by LeRoy L. Miller for a course given at Brooks Divinity School, Denver, Colorado, in June, 1999.  We would like to express our deep appreciation to Mr. Miller for his extensive work in making this text available to new generations of spiritual seekers (complete with explanatory notes where James makes reference to authors current in 1902). If you are already familiar with downloading PDF files, you can download the PDF edition of the book by clicking here.  Otherwise, please follow the instructions in the download guide.


Books on the spiritual life written or edited by Dennis Rivers:  
(free in PDF format)

    Prayer Evolving
    My exploration of meditating and praying with vivid imagery. 
    One approach to the question of how to stay positive and
    compassionate in the middle of difficult and/or chaotic situations. 
    My effort to write a 23rd Psalm for the 21st century.  
    (Available in a printed edition in 2006.)

Turning Toward Life: An Invitation to Explore Reverence for Life as a Spiritual Path (5.5MB PDF file. Book of essays, two by DR). Includes contributions by Vijali, Joanna Macy, Rabbi Michael Lerner, Prof. Eugene Bianchi, and many others.  The is a pre-publication draft of a manuscript to be published by KarunaBooks as well as being available as a PDF file.
(Available in a printed edition in 2006.) 

All my books and essays: at KarunaBooks.net


Liberation Theology online library and bookstore, includes many free articles and a few free books, plus many links to books at Amazon.com.

 

Liberation Theology online library of essays, articles and book links


345th Intergalactic Ambulance Wing (www.beamdown.org)
explores spirituality and communication skills from a science-fiction point of view.

Starstorm     by Vicky Brago-Mitchell

 

 

Understanding the Problem of Violence

The Insanity of Normality:
Toward Understanding Human Destructiveness

one of the most insightful books ever written about violence
is now available in a paperback reprint of the 1992 edition.

In The Insanity of Normality, the psychoanalyst Arno Gruen challenges the assumption, made popular by Freud in the twentieth century, that humans are born with an innate tendency to destruction and violence.  Gruen argues instead that at the root of evil lies self-hatred, a rage originating in a self-betrayal that begins in childhood, when autonomy is surrendered in exchange for the "love" of those who wield power over us. To share in that subjugating power, we create a false self, a pleasing-to-others image of ourselves that springs from powerful and deep-seated hopes of being loved and fears of being injured and humiliated.

Gruen traces this pattern of over-adaptation and smoldering rebellion through a number of case studies, sociological phenomena - from Nazism to Reaganomics - and literary works. The insanity this attitude produces, unfortunately, goes widely unrecognized precisely because it is the same cold, manipulative "realism" that modern society inculcates into its members. Gruen warns, however, that escape from this pattern lies not simply in rebellion, for the rebel remains emotionally tied to the object of his rebellion, but in the development of a personal autonomy. His elegant and far-reaching conclusion is that while autonomy is not easily attained, its absence proves catastrophic to both individual and society.

    "With compassion and conviction Dr. Gruen carefully exposes the undiagnosed and undisclosed insanity unwittingly accepted as normality... This is a text for leaders and followers, for conformists and rebels alike, for members of the healing professions who seek to repair the destructive fallout from our pursuit of normality and for all who strive for a more compassionate and saner social order."
    --Montague Ullman, M.D.

     

 

  Preventing Violence -- Prospects for Tomorrow, by James Gilligan. (NewYork: Thames and Hudson.  2001.) In this controversial and compassionate book, the distinguished psychiatrist James Gilligan proposes a radically new way of thinking about violence and how to prevent it. Violence is most often addressed in moral and legal terms: "How evil is this action, and how much punishment does it deserve?" Unfortunately, this way of thinking, the basis for our legal and political institutions, does nothing to shed light on the causes of violence. Violent criminals have been Gilligan's teachers, and he has been their student. Prisons are microcosms of the societies in which they exist, and by examining them in detail, we can learn about society as a whole. Gilligan suggests treating violence as a public health problem. He advocates initiating radical social and economic change to attack the root causes of violence, focusing on those at increased risk of becoming violent, and dealing with those who are already violent as if they were in quarantine rather than in constraint for their punishment and for society's revenge. The twentieth century was steeped in violence. If we attempt to understand the violence of individuals, we may come to prevent the collective violence that threatens our future far more than all the individual crimes put together.  (Price: appx. $19.00.  ISBN: 039575531X. Look for this book at your local library, order from your favorite local bookstore or click on one of the buttons below to order a new or used copy from the NewConversations+Amazon Books Link.)

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Welcome.  Listed on this and associated pages you will find our preliminary selection of some of the best books available (some reviewers say the best books ever written!) on interpersonal communication, human development and relationship building.  Whenever possible I try to locate and offer here significant books that are available free of chage in PDF format, starting with William James enduring classic, The Varieties of Religious Experience. Most of the books shown here are also available for purchase in printed format through links with Amazon, Trafford, and from Human Development Books through our book printer, Lulu.com.  In the coming years I intend to add many more books to the list from a wide range of sources, to help carry forward the visions of humanistic and liberation psychology into this century. So please stop by from time to time to see what is new.

Full personhood, a theme worth developing...  Over the past twenty years, I have become convinced that the idea of development, the orderly unfolding of awareness and ability, is one of the most important ideas in the history of human thought.  The idea of human development gives rise to many other powerful, energizing thoughts, foremost among them being efforts to understand full personhood and efforts to understand thwarted or frustrated development.  I hope the books featured here, including those that I have written, will encourage you to continue your journey of personal development, and encourage you to participate more consciously and creatively in the development of humanity.

Dennis Rivers, September 2005


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